Asian Pickup Artist

Thai Disco

I’ve been going to a Thai Disco recently called Sensation; for our audience that don’t know what a Thai Disco is, it’s basically a club that has multiple Thai female ‘entertainers’ going from table to table to sit, drink and talk with the patrons. I mean, drinking ain’t as fun if it’s a sausage party. Basically the girls let the predominantly male clientele have a good time. Grinding/fondling optional. In addition there’s also live performances including songs and dances. Quite an entertaining place.

The girls there usually have a personal quota of drinks to hit so that they can earn their pay. So after some interaction, they are going to ask you to buy them “”“tequila shots”“”. I rolled my eyes while I typed that. I’m a bartender so I know when my shot has been watered down to drinking sheep piss. Anyway, the point is to let them earn some money since they entertained you. These shots usually range from $12-$30 each depending on the club, which is also correlated to how hot the girls in that particular club are. Whether to pay or not is entirely up to each individual. But buying them a drink definitely does make them like you more. Duh.

I’ve to say that the girls in Sensation are pretty decent. We’ll have a more in-depth discussion of lup sup (indecent) KTVs/clubs in the future. Many locals have misconceptions about what goes on in these KTVs, since not many have actually gone into one. There are also different levels of indecency at such clubs/KTVs, ranging all the way from perfectly clean karaoke singing by yourself, to blowjobs in the club itself. Sensation was probably a middle ground kinda club. Not that hardcore.

There’s a particular bro of mine who like me, is an asshole. Our entire goal in these clubs is to find a way to make-out with the ‘entertainers’ without buying them a single drink. Seriously, buying the girl a few ””tequila shots”” and then getting a kiss is child’s play. Technically you’re buying a kiss. What you can truly call an achievement is when you use pure charm, personality and persuasive conversation (even though they only speak broken English) and succeed in seducing a Thai Disco girl. If they are interested enough, they will ask for your phone number and even offer to go to the hotel with you. After that, it depends on your morals. I’ve another friend who has a Thai girl that got pissed that he refuses to go to a hotel with her and texts him none stop. Amazing stuff. It’s kinda like trying to seduce the dancer in a strip club, without paying a single dollar. This is the Asian version.

Please Note: Even though we try not to pay these girls at the disco, if you do get something out of the interaction and you revisit subsequently, PLEASE do buy them a drink. These Thai girls still gotta earn a living yeah. 

So what are you waiting for. Go try seducing a Thai Girl at a Thai Disco today!

The 2 types of Womanizers

I was reading a book called ‘The Unbearable Lightness of Being’ by Milan Kundera, about this doctor Tomas, who states that although his heart is with his wife, his sexual needs are a completely different issue all together. Thus even though he is married, he still goes on no-strings attached sexual exploits around town with countless women and tries to hide it from his wife. But the aroma of vajayjay in his hair gives it away. It also explores other interesting life and existentialism issues while set in the Prague Spring era of domination by the Soviet Union. Interesting read, you guys should check it out sometime. 

I have friends who like Tomas, find it perfectly alright to have a stable relationship but yet sleep around with other women. Obviously their girlfriends do not know about it, but it is interesting to observe that when it comes to no-strings attached sex, there are girls out there willing to engage in that carnal pleasure even knowing that the man is in a stable relationship. The combination of taboo social restriction and being an asshole appeals sexually to people.

And then there is the ‘Open-relationship’ that some couples go into, where you are allowed to date or even sleep with other people while in a ‘open-relationship’ with someone. I find this a major contradiction since a ‘Relationship’ is a form of commitment, while an ‘Open’ pre-suffix takes away that very definition. Don’t kid yourself people, if you’re in an ‘Open-relationship’, you’re just fuck buddies. You’re just in denial over the status.

Hence we’re going to talk about the 2 basic types of womanizers, or men who feel the need to sleep with countless women and what drives this desire.

The first type which is considered more poetic, is the man who is desperately trying to find the ideal girl of his dreams and thus keeps getting together with different women and then moving on in hopes of actually finding his complimenting other half. The problem with this is that the IDEAL woman, is by definition, a standard of PERFECTION and thus can never be achieved. It is based on self-created benchmarks which no human can achieve other than in your dreams. So in using this logic, the poetic womanizer justifies his actions of sleeping around and moving on to the next woman because of incompatibility. I have to admit that I myself was at one point in this stage. I just could not find a girl that I thought was good enough or compatible. And believe me, being this type of womanizer gets you laid more easily than the 2nd type I will talk about later. To women, this is something that is tormenting you, being constantly failed in expectations and yearning for true love and all that romanticism crap. It appeals to girls. And sex comes with it. They might even try to fix your empty heart, but guess what, the hole was never real to begin with; you created it yourself. So for those of you who fit in this category of womanizer, do yourself a favor and wake up from lalaland. The ideal woman for you does not exist. A relationship is about compromise and acceptance. You’re just using this as an excuse to not settle down and sleep around.

The 2nd type of womanizer, is the greedy type that just wants to experience all the different flavors of women out there. And it’s not just about being horny, but wanting to try out as many different sexperiences as possible. Perhaps subconsciously you want to become more experienced and be more skilled in bed, which sleeping with countless women will definitely help. Or the excitement of trying a new girl is what drives your motives. But you the more you engage in sexual conquering, the more detached you are going to become from sex and love. You end up like Tomas, not being able to reconcile love and sex, and everybody ends up getting hurt. There is NO woman out there willing to share their partner sexually with someone else. She might say it is okay, but deep down we are all possessive and selfish especially for the things that we really love. After all this sleeping around is there a point to it? You become a sex acrobat, but know nothing about ‘making love’. So my advice is don’t go down too deep the rabbit hole or you’re going to be stuck in wonderland forever.

Shit Tests

Every person grows up with a lot of information going around us. There is so much information and decisions needed to make everyday that we naturally form heuristics, or quick mental links, in our minds to make these quick decisions. Take for example, you hear that someone has a Harvard Law degree and instantly your opinion of this person whom you’ve never met is boosted to Mount Olympus-like levels. It is a form of discrimination in a way, but necessary if you don’t want to take an hour to decide which sock to wear each day.

On a similar vein, women have developed this snap judgement to screen potential suitors. The more attractive a girl was when growing up, naturally the more men have tried to approach her and thus she needs an even more stringent screening mechanism. Just like how a bank position which has 100 applicants can afford to be more selective than the cashier opening at Macdonalds. How women have developed these ‘shit tests’ over the years is based a lot on their experiences with previous men. They need to know that as a potential suitor, you ‘get it’ and know how to be different from the other countless chums who salivate at the sight of her daily. Frankly for an extremely attractive woman, just being able to act normally will be sufficient (since everyone else acts like she provides the very air they breathe). If you are resistant to her charms while everyone swoons over how sexy her sneeze is, you’re already ahead in the game. Women want a man that has a high sense of worth and won’t be revolving around her world- you need to make her revolve around yours. The laws of physics dictate that objects of high mass (value) will attract things of lower relative mass. Girls will be attracted to you only if you have a higher value than them, and they will test you constantly to see whether you are below or above them.

So now we come to the question of how girls actually screen guys. Mostly this is done via conversation, body language and how you present yourself in certain social situations. Collectively, these little cues are called ‘shit tests’. Fail too many of these shit tests and you fail as a potential boyfriend. Here are some common questions/examples. Pick an answer and see your results whether you get it or not.

Girl: Where do you want to eat tonight?

Possible Answers

a) Hmm I don’t know. What do -you- want to eat

b) Sushi. Let’s go.

c) I’ll eat whatever you want to.

Girl: I really like guys who work out.

a) Oh yea? Check this out *flexes biceps*

b) I like pizza.

c) I’m going to hit the gym daily from now on.

Girl: Gawd, I hate guys who don’t shave *stares at your unshaven face*

a) Oh gosh so sorry! I’ll remember the next time we meet

b) Glad you like it

c) I’ll go buy a razor right now, be right back.

Girl: Do you mind carrying my bag (or any other request) for me?

a) Sure thing

b) Do you mind carrying MY bag?

c) Well, only if its for a while.

Alright fellas, which choice did you pick as your most likely answer to these questions? If you guys picked anything other than option (B), you need to explore this site more. And give me a call for some 1-on-1 tutoring.

HOW COULD YOU PICK ANYTHING OTHER THAN (B) !??!

Here’s the deal. Girls will relentlessly and subconsciously be putting out such statements and questions to see whether you have the balls to stand up for what/who you are, and not pretend to be someone you’re not. Some of the nastier girls will even throw out direct insults like “that’s a horrible hairstyle” and you need to know how to react to this. If your mind’s a blank to what witty retort to give, just IGNORE the comment and talk about something else. Completely block out that she said anything negative to that effect. A simple standard reply that you guys can use in response to any criticism a girl gives is “Glad you like it” or “Glad you noticed”. This shows precisely the nonchalant and non-compliant attitude that a man needs to have. Do NOT ever be defensive and take offense. So WHAT if I have curly hair that looks like pubic hair (by the way I get that joke a lot due to my natural curls. What cha want me to do, go straighten it? I happen to like my hair thank you very much.). Do NOT be sorry for who you are and for whatever decisions you have made prior. Including your bad fashion sense, which we will attempt to fix in a future article. The other typical shit tests include seeing whether you will take charge and make decisions independently. Girls typically do not like to make decisions or are extremely indecisive so you’ve got to man up and just make a choice. I hypothesize this could be a Freudian effect because growing up, daddy made all the decisions and she did not need to make any herself. This feeling of being taken care of appeals to many girls, even if they pretend to be headstrong, they still secretly want a man to take charge (Heck this appeals even to me). Even if it turns out to be a BAD choice, trust me that in the long run your girl will be happier that you made a call rather than be wishy-washy.

To summarize, in conversation, don’t be afraid to be yourself. Do not try to impress a girl by appealing directly to what she likes (we will talk about how to raise value without boasting in a future article). Make decisions. Right or wrong, just make them and stick with the results. Don’t do anything for a girl that you wouldn’t for a stranger. Giving in to a request, especially unreasonable or inconvenient to you is equivalent to trading in your testicles. This is good advice not just for male-to-female conversations, but you should aim to apply this to ANY conversation. People will respect you more for what you stand for.

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Anonymous asked: I think there's a typo in the LMR article.

“I only want to do something with you that come tomorrow, we can think back and smile about it and not feel guilty.”

I only want to do something with you that come tomorrow? huh?

Hmm Ok let me try to rephrase that thanks a lot

Last Minute Resistance (LMR)

Last minute resistance is a female defense response in a sexual situation where you are in bed with a girl making out, and while your hand starts to wander south, you suddenly get a slap. Bad boy! No exploring the magic cave. Your advances have been halted. Cease and decease.  You continue making out and you try again. Same thing happens. She says “I don’t do this kinda thing”. The guy starts getting frustrated and keeps doing the same thing with the same results. You either argue or give up, and sex is now a distant pot at the end of the rainbow. The horny mind is a stupid mind.

If you are having this issue, first I have to congratulate you on getting this far. This is an advanced problem that many guys have never even encountered yet. So give yourself a pat on the back. At least you’ve made out with a girl! With your own skills! For those who are still starting out in gaining more confidence with women, just take note that this will be a potential problem in the future. The best method is to completely prevent LMR from happening, but if it does, all is not lost. There is still a chance for salvation and happiness.

So let’s first try to understand the situation here: Girl does not want to progress further than just kissing. The geist of it is that she is not attracted enough to you. Or, she is not comfortable enough. This is especially true for the more conservative Asian girls who are brought up with “No sex till marriage” being drilled into their minds by their parents. Or at least no sex with anyone but their boyfriends. In their minds, if they give in so easily, they become sluts and will be ostracized by the community. This may or may not be true, but they definitely do not want to feel like sluts who sleep around. What I’m about to teach, is morally grey. I do support girls who only make love to their boyfriends, and these are the type of girls you SHOULD be looking for. So even with rejection, you know that you are with a girl who is not easy and might be worth more commitment. However if you want to push the boundaries, here it is. 

Method 1: Freezeout

Popularized by Erik Von Markovic aka Mystery, this is where you completely stop whatever kinky things you were doing and engage in something really dull. Like playing chess. Or talking about the sloth’s bowel habits. Turn on the lights, stop the music, blow out the candles. Just stop. And do something else, like watch TV. Make it a boring show too. This will come as a big shock to the girl and in fact make things more uncomfortable/boring than when you guys were making out. Important thing to note is NOT to show any anger or displeasure. Just stay calm and normal, like you just switched gears from 4th gear to parking. Even though the girl will feel really uneasy now, being in an Asian context, it is uncommon for her to make the first move to re-initiate what you guys were doing- you’re gonna have to take a risk again and move in slowly. If you are able to restart the make-out session, I guarantee you will get at least 1 stage further than you had previously. If not, you can try a freeze out again. Don’t pull this too many times though, it gets predictable. For tips on how to even get to the make out stage, refer to my Quick Canned materials on Closing. 

Method 2: Security and comfort

This is my preferred modus operandi. So you are making out and she swipes your hand away. Ok stop a moment, and its time to honestly declare some understandings:

Firstly, make it clear that “this is something we both want, and not just something that I want”. You can add-on with something to the lines of “I only want to do something with you that when tomorrow comes, we can think back, smile about it and not feel guilty.”

Next, follow up with “if I am doing anything that you do not want to do, don’t be shy to stop me” and now continue. You will get further, if not all the way.

These lines reassure a girl and makes it much easier. But obviously unless you really mean it or you’re just a heck of a good liar, it might not sound convincing. At least for me, its the truth. I did not say I loved her or am going to commit in any way.

Even with these techniques, there is still a chance that you just aren’t gonna get lucky that night. Learn when to cut your losses and retreat to fight another day. Most Singaporean girls don’t sleep with a guy on the first or 2nd date. You will need more time and commitment to get lucky. You will also need to plan the location to do it at, and can’t just say “Hey uh lets hit Hotel 81”. That is a obvious no-no. Things need to happen naturally and in the moment. In the future I will write an article on location planning and more on LMR as well as other obstacles you might face.

Disclaimer: I have seen many guys who tell girls they “LOVE” them, fuck them and bail. This is not what I advocate. If you want to be an asshole, at least be an honest asshole. You might not get to sleep with every girl you meet, but at least you sleep with a clear conscience at night. I recommend using this on a girl you are REALLY serious with and not just playing around. 

Flirting

So what is flirting? According to Wikipedia “Flirting is a common form of social interaction whereby one person obliquely indicates a romantic or sexual interest towards another. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated (encouraged) with intentions of getting to know that person on a higher level.”

Well that really is what its about. Literally. So how do you go about doing it successfully? Lets make one thing clear, it is NOT flirting if it is only one sided as mentioned above. That’s just sad desperate people trying to make advances to disinterested parties. There must be some reasonable mutual positive response from both parties to be considered flirting. To differentiate flirting from normal conversation, the important element here is the latent sexual undertones in your conversation. There must be some kind of sexual interest very thinly concealed so as to not appear too eager, yet enough of it to be picked up by the other party. It’s a play between 2 parties that goes back and forth. I’m going to share with you some techniques that you can use to encourage flirting and transcend normal conversation. Most of these techniques revolve around being cocky and funny. A note to all, I have discussed before the type of attitude to take and to be confident and funny, but never ever let this be your only personality. No one is arrogant and humorous 24/7. You need to occasionally show your softer sensitive side too so as to convey that you’re normal. In the beginning of the interaction where attraction occurs, use this confident funny attitude. But tone it down a little. How much to tone down, how much to use initially all comes with experience and practice. I personally have overdone the cocky funny attitude initially a lot of times, calling girls “barely above functionally retarded”, or comments like “oh yea, you should hit the gym more.” These have all proven to have negative results and are too harsh. At best the girl would call me an asshole and tell all her friends, at worst I’d get slapped. Ah well thats life. Asian girls especially are very unused to insults so please watch the teasing. Oops I’ve been rambling. So heres some general tips and playful techniques to use for flirting:

• Enter/treat every situation like a sitcom comedy set.
  
• Do not laugh to break tension or try to laugh so that she laughs along.
• Let her laugh but try not to laugh along with her so as to make her look like shes asking to be accepted instead
• Do not use self-deprecating humour
  
• Vibing: share a connection “Like oh he gets me!”. Then stop and go back to being a funny asshole. Then vibe again.
  
• Keep looking into hot girl’s eye. Dont turn away before she does.
  
• Imply that she is attracted to you, especially if she teases you (which is a good IOI)
• Accuse her of anything possible. Like being a closet lesbian.
  
• Conspiracy Theory. Act like everything is a conspiracy. “Psst, just sip your drink slowly. Don’t look around, they are watching! Ok just do what I do…”
• Talk about all the other losers who have been trying to hit on her.
• Play games, preferably with some level of physical contact, like thumb wrestling. Note: do not lose.
• Give personality tests/analysis
• Be unpredictable (as mentioned about 72382 times)
• Be sarcastic in a funny way. Exaggerated event must be obvious enough.
• Respond to any insult she gives calmly and nonchalently e.g “Oh, glad you like it”

By the way, I’ll be leaving for Taiwan in a bit to party, will be back in 10 days. See ya guys.

Rubber Band Theory

So what -is- rubber band theory? Let’s observe the properties of a rubber band; If you hold a rubber band with 2 hands at each side and stretch one end apart, tension builds. When you release one side, it snaps back to the other end. In contrast, without stretching, if one end goes closer to the other end, the other end just pushes further away due to the excess slack in between. Relationships can be viewed in the same way, men being on one end of the rubber band and women on another. 

In a courtship, it is important to give space and allow this tension to build. Pull away and the other party will come to you instead. This is why when girls play hard to get, guys go crazy and pursue them more and more. However its counterproductive to be drawn in as you get too close, creating too much slack thus pushing the girl away instead aka “that guy is creepy”. This is also related to exclusiveness; we all want what we can’t get. Be the guy who pulls away instead. Note however, there must be a certain level of attraction already created to enforce this effect. The reason why most girls can pull away and have men chasing them like a Vatican priest to little boys is precisely because guys are already attracted, most probably due to superficial reasons like, i dunno, boobs. Yes, no surprise there, men are easily attracted to girls on a superficially level. So guys, get a grip. Create attraction first then pullback further, creating a void she is obliged to feel. 1 step forward, 2 steps back. 

Final notes. Don’t pull back TOO far. Even a rubber band breaks when pulled too far apart. Create too much distance that is impossible to cover and the relation ceases all together.